Mister is a very loving and friendly little boy. I can always count on a sweet hug and kiss from him when I stub my toe or often for no reason at all. He is friendly to strangers, always waving and saying hello or goodbye to them and I get reports from his preschool teacher that he's very friendly and even affectionate toward the others in his class. I love this tender side of him and I'm trying to soak it all up before he gets old enough to be embarrassed by giving his mom hugs and kisses in front of his friends. Today when I dropped him off for preschool I walked away forgetting to get a hug or kiss from him. I only got a few steps away before he called out to me, asking for a hug and kiss before I left. It absolutely melted my heart and I really cherish his sweet ways (especially since he wasn't a cuddly baby).
As a parent, I think we are all in love with our children and their strengths and sweetness. Of course they have their flaws, but their good qualities seem to shine so bright that you're (at least I am) completely smitten with them. Sometimes it's difficult to fathom that others either don't appreciate those traits or don't immediately recognize the wonderfulness (I know, that's not a real word) of your child. Today when I picked Mister up from school one of his classmates was standing next to us as I was trying to get him into his carseat. But he wouldn't budge yet because he wanted to say goodbye to the other child. He was so sweet and repeated (4 or 5times) "Goobye So-and-so" waving and smiling at them. The other child stood there staring at him with a frown on their face and never responded - just turned and walked away. It was so sad to see Mister get snubbed like that when he was trying to be friendly. It really made me sad when he asked why that other child didn't say "bye" to him when he kept waving and repeating himself. I didn't know what to tell him.
I know it's just a tiny snippet of what he'll have to go through in the future because I know that not everyone will always like him (even though I can't imagine why not). I know that he'll get his heart broken and I know that he'll come home in tears someday because of something another child said or did. I'm just not looking forward to those days because I love him so much and I see all the wonderful things he has to offer this world and it makes me want to protect him from any harm or heartache. And it kills me to know that I won't be able to protect him from things like that. And if I'm reacting like this to a 4-year-old preschool scenario I'm really dreading the teenage scenarios to come. I just adore Mister (and Pumpkin too, obviously) and want him to be happy and have people return his affection and friendly overtures. I never knew that parenting could be so heartbreaking.
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I pray this type of thing will be the extend of heartbreak you experience with your boys. I have a feeling that you will weather through just fine as you have such strong faith in the Lord and in your family.
Oh I'm glad you're the mother here and not me Maris because I sure would have answered "Mister" when he asked why the other child didn't say goodbye back.
"He's a jerk."
Haha.
Believe me, I felt like saying exactly that! But Mister repeats everything these days so I didn't want him going back to school and calling the other child names. But I was tempted....
Oh my dearest, I have no doubt that you will find all the right words to comfort your boys when their hearts are aching. You are a beautiful mother. :-) I'm so excited to have my own little ones someday too. I can only imagine what my own poor mother went through with our big brood.
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